Claudia Jean says think about "How do you want to be loved? Do you want loneliness to follow your spouse to his or her grave, or do you want to have the love you had for each other move forward?
Wouldn’t you hope that the new love would be fond of your memory?
Watch for red flags It’s a good thing to be understanding and supportive, but if your potential love interest is not ready t o move on yet, you know what you must do. Barash says "If your new love interest constantly talks about the former spouse, this is not good.
"If your new love interest constantly talks about the former spouse, this is not good.
At the same time, he may be feeling very guilty for feeling so relieved.
They discussed openly his finding someone new to spend his life with since they both knew he wasn’t very good at staying alone for very long. We live several states apart from each other, so for now our relationship is mostly on the phone and whenever he can come up for long weekends.
I don’t want to make any major moves (me or him) at least until the first anniversary of her death, but I do want to enjoy him in the meantime. My response: I certainly appreciate your concerns about developing a relationship with a man so recently widowed, but you know yourself and this man better than I do, so in the end, only you can determine whether there is “anything wrong with this.” I can tell you that the relationship your man had with his wife and whatever ongoing attachment he feels toward her, both now and in the future, is unique to him, and how he reacts to this loss will be unique to him as well.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and there is no specific time frame.
Everyone grieves differently according to their age, gender, personality, culture, value system, past experience with loss, and available support.